Elizabeth made the choices that led to her anger and expects that since she does extra things, the work she left behind should automatically be picked up by someone else. You saw this exact same complex in my mother- she chose to do a billion things outside of the household, but forgot that there are only so many dollars/hours in a day, and then got angry with other people when the things she leaves behind aren’t magically taken care of. What it comes down to is that Elizabeth made choices and now has to face consequences. To take something, in life, always means giving something else up.

Unfortunately, people who comment on news articles aren’t usually ones to figure out why they’re saying things- they just say them. Their suggestions are valid solutions to her problems- just not ones that fit with Elizabeth’s (and your) way of thinking/ ideal.

There aren’t enough hours in the day to “do it all.” I mean, maybe if she found a little time for methamphetamine in her routine, then she would find herself with a full 8 hours a night of extra time to do all the things she wants to do, but until then, or the time when science finds a way for women to truly be everywhere at once, we’re all going to have to make some cutbacks.

I’m rambling, but I’ll also say this. A support network is necessary for a busy life, and part of having a support network is communicating with them. The more I live with Adam, the more I realize that women really DO expect men (and everyone else) to mind-read. Need your husband to pick the kid up/do dishes/ make you dinner/ clean up sick? Don’t expect him to realize that- ask him to do it. Once you let him know, you’ll find that if he’s as good of a man as you think, and he’s as not-busy as you think, that he won’t have a problem doing it. Don’t want to ask for help? Then don’t get angry when you make that choice to not get any help. Oh, and fire the nanny, if she’s not doing her job.

I think we need to send a memo to the universe: “It takes two people to create a child (the usual way). Both of these people are equally responsible for raising that child. Child-rearing skill is not genetically pre-determined. Neither is cooking or cleaning.”