Comments on: Try a little tenderness http://www.idiotparade.net/?p=270 the first of many stupid mistakes that take place before decapitation Thu, 30 Sep 2010 03:55:18 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: M. http://www.idiotparade.net/?p=270&cpage=1#comment-445 M. Wed, 11 Nov 2009 22:16:12 +0000 http://www.idiotparade.net/?p=270#comment-445 We all do things that hurt others as we go thru life. You and your ex friends are very young, you do things you are sorry for, that you regret, as well all have. Looking back you may see things from a different point of view than when it was happening, when you are in the middle of it. You have taken the 1st step to reconcile, now it is up to them. Forgiveness is one of keys to a happy life. If we can mend fences with one another, accept that a person can be truly sorry for things said or done I think we would be much happier in our lives. Life is too short to hold grudges. We all do things that hurt others as we go thru life. You and your ex friends are very young, you do things you are sorry for, that you regret, as well all have. Looking back you may see things from a different point of view than when it was happening, when you are in the middle of it. You have taken the 1st step to reconcile, now it is up to them. Forgiveness is one of keys to a happy life. If we can mend fences with one another, accept that a person can be truly sorry for things said or done I think we would be much happier in our lives. Life is too short to hold grudges.

]]> By: Renee http://www.idiotparade.net/?p=270&cpage=1#comment-444 Renee Wed, 11 Nov 2009 20:11:25 +0000 http://www.idiotparade.net/?p=270#comment-444 You did the right thing in attempting to make ammends. That's really all you can do. You did the right thing in attempting to make ammends. That’s really all you can do.

]]> By: Megan http://www.idiotparade.net/?p=270&cpage=1#comment-443 Megan Wed, 11 Nov 2009 17:29:22 +0000 http://www.idiotparade.net/?p=270#comment-443 I hate getting "I'm sorry, please forgive me" emails. If I want to talk to someone who hurt me, if I want to forgive them and be friends? Then I'll let them know. When you approach someone that you hurt, you are seeking to assauge your hurt or guilty feelings. That isn't their job, and they aren't being jerks if they say no thanks, or if they say nothing. they are protecting themselves from a person that did them harm. I hate getting “I’m sorry, please forgive me” emails. If I want to talk to someone who hurt me, if I want to forgive them and be friends? Then I’ll let them know. When you approach someone that you hurt, you are seeking to assauge your hurt or guilty feelings. That isn’t their job, and they aren’t being jerks if they say no thanks, or if they say nothing. they are protecting themselves from a person that did them harm.

]]> By: Charlie http://www.idiotparade.net/?p=270&cpage=1#comment-441 Charlie Wed, 11 Nov 2009 03:08:13 +0000 http://www.idiotparade.net/?p=270#comment-441 Letting go is wonderfully freeing. You did your part. Walk away. You shall not go back for lickings. Let go. It's now officially their problem. Letting go is wonderfully freeing. You did your part. Walk away. You shall not go back for lickings.

Let go. It’s now officially their problem.

]]> By: TheOmniAdam http://www.idiotparade.net/?p=270&cpage=1#comment-439 TheOmniAdam Wed, 11 Nov 2009 01:27:40 +0000 http://www.idiotparade.net/?p=270#comment-439 Someone who denies or outright refuses the opportunity to make amends when someone has already made the first step is 1) hurting themselves more than anyone else and 2) going OUT of their way to do so. Still, there is something to be said about persistent forgiveness. If it's closure you seek, trying again, with even so little as an "I'm sorry you feel that way, but I really do want to move past what's already happened" message, if it doesn't get them to see the light of day, at least let's you put the situation at rest knowing you pushed that much harder to find it when they refused. Or... you could push harder- go out of your way to find another way to contact the other girl- whatever you feel is the right thing to do. I really don't know what other kind of closure such a situation can offer when trying to be better for it and grow from it then persistence, patience and forgiveness. Hope that helps... Someone who denies or outright refuses the opportunity to make amends when someone has already made the first step is 1) hurting themselves more than anyone else and 2) going OUT of their way to do so.
Still, there is something to be said about persistent forgiveness. If it’s closure you seek, trying again, with even so little as an “I’m sorry you feel that way, but I really do want to move past what’s already happened” message, if it doesn’t get them to see the light of day, at least let’s you put the situation at rest knowing you pushed that much harder to find it when they refused. Or… you could push harder- go out of your way to find another way to contact the other girl- whatever you feel is the right thing to do. I really don’t know what other kind of closure such a situation can offer when trying to be better for it and grow from it then persistence, patience and forgiveness.
Hope that helps…

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